Well, it's happened. Dylan asked me what sex was. I guess I should have asked him where he heard the word, but really, when you think about how much the word is on TV, even innocently ("You should refrain from sexual activity until you know how such-and-such a drug affects you...", etc.), I guess I shouldn't be surprised or even shocked, really.
I remember, when I was about Dylan's age, we had little alphabet letter magnets on our fridge, and I spelled out the word "sex." And I got into huge trouble! I didn't even know what it was! I just knew is was risque. :)
So anyways, in a panic, I did the old "I'll talk to you about it when you're older" line. Such a cop-out. I just needed some time! So I told Ben about it, and we decided to tell Dylan what it is and what it entails. Ben did all the talking, and he actually did a good job. Dylan looked like he didn't believe one word Ben was telling him (This is probably because Ben is always telling Dylan crap, seeing if Dylan will believe it. Dylan doesn't know if Ben is telling the truth, half the time), so we'll see if it even sunk in. But Ben was very tactful, very scientific, and very careful. And he made sure to tell Dylan that you only do it when you are married and want to have a kid (we're not going to tell him it's pleasurable yet).
Maybe you are all totally appalled that we told Dylan how it works, but I'd rather him learn it from us than from someone else. I think it's important to de-mystify things like this. We'll probably have to have the talk again someday, but for now, I'm proud of Ben for being brave. I'll have to tackle the whole period and tampon thing with Sadie someday, so I figure that Ben should have his share of uncomfortable parental moments. :)
Way to go! We have had "the talk" on various occasions with various children....actually we don't have 'the talk' we have little talks about once a year stepping up the details and such each time.
ReplyDeleteSo here is to good parents everywhere!
p.s. miss you! Couldn't someone connect Idaho Falls and Blythe with some kind of worm hole? That would make my life happier!
Nice work. It is much better to hear it from parents.
ReplyDeleteThis post made me smile. It also made me glad that I am not a mom yet...or a health teacher :)
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ReplyDeleteGood for you! Kaitlyn has become curious about how the baby is going to get out. In fact one day at a park play date we caught several kids in a circle talking about it. We approached and spoke honestly about the subject in a way that a 4 1/2 year old could understand. Of course we also told her that this is something we talk about in home, not at school or church. My daughter likes to bear her testimony, and I can just imagine the disaster that could come if we aren't careful! But I think it is awesome that Ben did the talking too, I have the same views, both parents need to share in these moments!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I think we're going to wait on that one for a little bit. If Jakob asks, then we'll tell, but at 5 I don't think he's quite ready just yet. Unless he starts asking, like Dylan did.
ReplyDeleteMy nephew called his brother a douche a couple weeks ago. I told him that wasn't a nice thing to say to someone. He asked me what a douche was. Um... "let's call your mom! She'll tell you!" Yikes! Barely escaped.
ReplyDeleteWow! Don't look forward to that one! Hopefully it will be awhile.
ReplyDeleteHoly cow! I can't believe that...well, actually I can - like you said, the word is everywhere. But Sheesh! That means I have 2 years to prepare myself...please bless it will be so much longer than that! :) I feel the same way though, my kids are going to hear all the stuff from me, even if it kills them.
ReplyDeleteYou guys did it just right!
ReplyDeleteI am so proud of parents that say it like it is...then later they know that they can come talk to you when someone says something silly like "You know you can get preg by setting on a toliet".
By the way...loved your hoo-ha comment!